The Allure of a Virtuous Woman

Here is something for you to consider, Christian women – Virtues are elusive in that once you think you have them you lose them.

Example: If you proclaim yourself to be wise you have become a fool. And, If you think yourself humble then you are not. Or perhaps you think yourself good, better than others, you have become vain and that’s not good. Lastly if you have to make a big effort to be kind then it is not real.

“What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?”- Rousseau

A man is not seeking a contender to challenge his every step, but a best friend with whom he can share happiness. Proverbs 21: 19 “ It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman.” Virtue will prevent you from being the woman in the proverb above.

“Virtue: that low sweet root from which all heavenly virtues shoot.” -Thomas Moore

Whether you connect with a suitor in a Christian singles dating service forum or not, these virtues will advertise themselves, and no man who knows you for any length of time will miss it. They will take note.


Christian women, have you noticed that men often complain that they just don’t understand women? And, have you ever noticed that they never complain that they don’t understand their mothers? What can be the reason? Men were raised by women who were not usually militant feminists therefore they have a more classical understanding of women. Herein lies the conflict. Men understand the classical woman and therefore their mothers, but they are confused by the new woman of today. Show him your classical side and romance will be second nature to him. No man forgets Mother’s day, with the flowers, cards etc. which is a form of romance. Inspire that in him and he will respond.


Ladies have you noticed that as a rule men don’t usually stick around long with a woman who goes to bed with him very early in the relationship? They know that that woman does not possess the virtue towards him that he needs. When selecting a lifelong mate, men are looking for certain highly desired universal traits. These traits trump all others on their wish list.

Let us be clear on the definition of virtue – In the broad sense it is “an admirable quality” The virtues a man is looking for in a partner are again; goodness, humility, kindness, and wisdom. There are more, but these are the facets which men appraise most in a woman. Virtue has long been a cherished quality in a woman. In Proverbs 31: 10,11 We read “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her…”

Christian single ladies, do not underestimate the power of these facets of virtue to give you a genuine allure with men. A decision to examine your heart searching for the power of virtue in your life will begin with Bible study. You might like to have a concordance along side your Bible, and a note pad. You could begin with the above verses found in Proverbs 31:10 and 11. Pray and seek God’s help as you take deliberate and determined steps to expand your faith and grow in virtue. You will love the wonderful ways you progress to become the Lord’s and that perfect mate’s Virtuous Woman! May God bless you. You could begin with goodness, humility, kindness and wisdom, and then add other virtues you already possess, or plan to possess. Remember, every day we should try to improve ourselves in our relationships, our wqlk with God, and our effort to be ambassadors for Jesus Christ and to do great exploits for Him.