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Depression, Fellow Traveler With Loneliness

Depression: Fellow Traveler with Loneliness

Meet single Christian women or men for long term romance. Read our dating advice from dating coach Katherine Tapani.Now that we’ve examined many aspects of loneliness, let’s take a closer look at depression. The odd thing about this pair of monsters is that, in some cases, it’s hard to say which came into our lives first. They may come to call alone, but as time goes by, we can feel the heaviness and pain of both.

If we become lonely first, depression is a natural outcome of loneliness. But if depression appears first, loneliness will find fertile ground to grow, due to the habit of pushing people away and avoiding old relationships. Sometimes we are not the ones to reject friends and family. A chronically depressed person finds that others retreat, not wanting to deal with the complaints of the depressed. Others, at first, try to help by showing support or giving helpful encouragement though  over time, when they see that nothing they’ve said or done made any difference, they give up. They feel frustrated and angry that all the hours of listening and trying to help seemed  a waste. Nothing changed.

A friend of mine developed depression after he learned that the company he worked for filed for bankruptcy, and pensions were lost in the shuffle. He spent a big part of his savings on legal fees, to no avail. Too old to start over, he became very withdrawn and didn’t want to get out of bed. He said that lying in bed most of the day and night gave him a headache and his strength was dwindling.  His wife had medical insurance which covered him, so she urged him to get treatment.

This began with antidepressants and mood stabilizing drugs , which helped for a while, but over time, the effect wore off. Then he went to a psychotherapist and was helped a bit while he learned about dealing with thoughts and emotions. The therapist suggested focusing on the issue that bothered him most, which was losing the pension he’d worked for, and the anger and feeling of abandonment by a company he had been loyal to for so many years. Evidently secular therapists know the value of forgiving those who have hurt you, because he was encouraged to forgive and let go of the feeling of betrayal. Isn’t it amazing that in 2000 years since the Lord preached about forgiveness, it has become a hot topic among non-Christian practitioners? Recently, they’ve rediscovered the healing power of prayer and, another “breakthrough,” that a cheerful heart does good, like a medicine! Is this a “Back to the future” moment in time? The non-believing medical establishment should study the Bible, because it is full of such “breakthroughs”. But that’s no surprise to those of us who love the Bible. We’ve always known the Bible is The Maker’s Manual.

He went to a Christian counselor and was taught meditation. Along with a diet which prescribed healthy foods and supplements that naturally elevated his mood (more on this later!), he finally was regaining his mental and emotional well-being.

Chapter 9. Depression: Fellow Traveler with Loneliness

Relaxation response is a type of meditation that is easy and teaches you to completely focus your attention on one thing, perhaps a short passage in the Bible that is calming and comforting to you. You will breathe deeply in and out, slowly, while keeping that verse in mind, and repeat it over and over. If your mind wanders, don’t get upset, just let it float away while you stay on your verse. You could try this for a short time at first, and work up to 15 or 20 minute sessions. If you have high blood pressure, you could check your pressure before meditating and afterward to see if you are truly becoming relaxed.

The way the counselor taught him to meditate might be of some help to you, too. In a later article I will outline breathing exercises to relieve stress, depression, possibly lower your blood pressure, and give your lungs a good workout. 

 Meditation is a useful aid in good health. No wonder the Lord told us to meditate upon the Word, Christian men and women!  I’ve become aware of the healing properties of Christian meditation in recent years. I thought the benefit of meditating was a deeper knowledge of the Word, but I’m thankful to say we can also heal our minds and bodies while meditating.  Isn’t that just like the Lord, to give us a double portion, an unexpected bonus for being obedient! Meditating can also calm anxiety, post-traumatic syndrome and fight substance abuse.

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Prepare To Have Your Ribs Tickled, Christian Singles!

Prepare To Have Your Ribs Tickled

Meet single Christian women or men for long term romance. Read our dating advice from dating coach Katherine Tapani.It’s time to take our medicine again! Don’t I sound like a nurse? You know the kind; a no-nonsense woman, usually tall and shaped like a refrigerator, ( probably a drill sergeant in WW2, ) carrying a tiny paper cup with pills in it. You knew there were no options about taking your medicine. You were just glad she wasn’t headed your way with some contraption which had a long tube or hose on it, which is never a good sign! But this medicine is sweet, and it’s only purpose is to make your heart merry. So enjoy!

A man goes to a bar with his dog. He goes up to the bar and asks for a drink. The bartender says “You can’t bring that dog in here!” The guy, without missing a beat, says “This is my seeing-eye dog.” “Oh man, ” the bartender says, “I’m sorry, here, the first one’s on me.” The man takes his drink and goes to a table near the door.

Another guy walks in the bar with a Chihuahua. The first guys sees him, stops him and says “You can’t bring that dog in here unless you tell him it’s a seeing-eye dog.” The second man graciously thanks the first man and continues to the bar. He asks for a drink. The bartender says “Hey, you can’t bring that dog in here!”

The second man replies “This is my seeing-eye dog.” The bartender says, “No, I don’t think so. They do not have Chihuahuas as seeing-eye dogs.” The man pauses for a half-second and replies “What?!?! They gave me a Chihuahua?!?”
“The Computer is Down”

Two priests died at the same time and met Saint Peter at the Pearly Gates. St. Peter said, “I’d like to get you guys in now, but our computer is down. You’ll have to go back to Earth for about a week, but you can’t go back as priests. So what else would you like to be?”
The first priest says, “I’ve always wanted to be an eagle, soaring above the Rocky Mountains.”
“So be it,” says St. Peter, and off flies the first priest.
The second priest mulls this over for a moment and asks, “Will any of this week ‘count’, St. Peter?”
“No, I told you the computer’s down. There’s no way we can keep track of what you’re doing.”
“In that case,” says the second priest, “I’ve always wanted to be a stud.”
“So be it,” says St. Peter, and the second priest disappears.
A week goes by, the computer is fixed, and the Lord tells St. Peter to recall the two priests. “Will you have any trouble locating them?” He asks.
“The first one should be easy,” says St. Peter. “He’s somewhere over the Rockies, flying with the eagles. But the second one could prove to be more difficult.”
“Why?” asketh the Lord.
“He’s on a snow tire, somewhere in North Dakota.”

OK, that’s all folks!  Please remember to smile often, even when you don’t feel like it.  Just the act or exercise of smiling, even with no emotion behind it, will cause healing endorphens to flow. As you relax and practice those  grins, or even half-smiles, you will see that it is working its magic on your wounded heart. Promise yourself, Christian singles, you will avail yourself of this natural healing process, a true gift from God!